There are so many
truths listed in this blog post. Please read it and know that I couldn’t have
said this any better.
Though I love that
my children have received attention and love for a micro-week at a time through
the outreach of kind hearted people who travel to Haiti to work on mission
trips, I agree that what Carla points out in her blog post. Our children are
not members of a petting zoo. They are broken and fragmented little people who
need to be loved. But they need consistent and reliable love. They don’t need
to be the subject of a photo shoot that is shared with the world. Their lives,
their stories, and their image are
theirs. If I could tell the amazing people who have loved my children one thing
before they visit and love on them for a week, it would be to please keep my
children’s hearts in mind. Please understand that they are not fodder for your
personal growth. They are in a place of abandonment and the more you love them
and leave them, the more they build their emotional walls. Please love them.
Please know that I love that you love them. But please remember that they have
a family who is trying desperately to bring them home. They are not “orphans”
any longer. They are someone’s child. They are someone’s sibling. And they mean
the world to us. They are with us every second of the day. They are in every
heartbeat. They are in every breath. So please, go and build, and paint, and
pray and nourish. But remember to first do no harm.
I wish that I could
say that none of these items applied to our crèche and our adoption process,
but alas, I truly identify with every single point made.
http://carlaburlando.blogspot.com/2013/11/how-to-screw-up-orphan-care-in-name-of.html?m=1
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